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Rebuilding Parents-Children Bridges

TOPIC: Rebuilding Parents-Children Bridges (RCCG Sunday School STUDENT Manual 21 March 2021)

MEMORY VERSE: “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.” – Ephesians 6:4

BIBLE PASSAGE: Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV (RCCG Sunday School STUDENT Manual 21 March 2021)

1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.

2 Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;)

3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.

4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

INTRODUCTION: Building parents-children bridges can be an uphill task. It is obvious that there is a generational gap between Parents and their children. When we compare two generations and when there is a considerable difference in the lifestyles, habits, likes and dislikes of the people belonging to these separate times, problems due to age gap arise. It is no secret that these days, these gaps are widening by width and bounds. This lack of understanding of social, moral, political, musical, fashion or religious opinion leads to lack of acceptance which is the primary reason families break.


  1. Causes Of Relational Gap Between Parents And Children
  2. Bridging The Gap


  1. Generational Gap: Generational gap means being born and living around the same time, also known as ‘coevals. When there is a significant gap of time among two coevals, it is defined as ‘generational gap’. A generation gap or generational gap is a difference of opinions between one generation and another regarding beliefs, politics, or values. 1 Kings 12:3-10.
  2. Culture Shift: Modification of a way of life through innovation, invention, discovery, or contact with other societies. It derives from the experience of encountering new ways of doing things that challenge the basic belief that your doing things is the “correct” way (Gen 29:25-26).
  3. Need for Space: Parents feel protective about their children and they like to be involved and be informed about the things that are happening in their children’s lives. However, the younger generation feels a need for space as they are discovering and experimenting with new things. Judges 14:1-3.
  4. Thought-Flow Differences: Parent’s morals and views of life can be very different from their children’s. This can lead to either imposition of ideals/decisions or friction/resistance on the part of the children. Judges 14:3.
  5. Little or no Attention/Support: The busy schedules of many parents, as a result of their career or other engagements, have severed the relationship they have with their children. Children from such homes suffer from lack of attention, emotional/psychological support, etc. 1 Sam. 16:11.

The reality of a generation gap is only in terms of age. If parents put aside their ego and look at things from an entirely different perspective, they would perhaps never have a gap between them and their children. Here are some tips on how parents can bridge the gap between them and their children:

  1. Communicate constantly: When parents communicate respectfully at an opportune time with their children, they are letting them know that they are willing to do all it takes to lessen the age gap and understand things from the points of view. Prov. 25:11.
  2. Listen and understand: Parents sometimes tend to talk too idealist. They should rather learn to listen, let their children voice their opinions for better understanding. Nagging or giving lectures all the time is not a good idea. Col. 3:21, Eph. 6:4.
  3. Be open-minded: When parents open their hearts, they look at things in a new perspective . This is very important if they must understand their children’s own priorities and habits. 1 Thess. 5:21.
  4. Learn to accept: Parents have to first accept that they “lived” in a world different from today’s. Therefore, they have to make the effort to understand and accept their children’s reasonable perspectives and priorities. Eccl. 3:1.
  5. Break through your imperfection and fear: Parents should realise that they are not perfect just as their children are not also perfect. Let not your parenting be done out of fear but in love. Parents must model God’s love with their words and actions. Prov. 22:6.

CONCLUSION: Building the gap between parents and children involves doing what is needed to be done as parents by becoming a little more understanding and accepting what their children see as their ‘world’

i. What are gap between parents and children?
ii. How can the gap be bridged?

ASSIGNMENT: List five devastating effects of allowing or tolerating gap between parents and children.

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