Sunday School

Sexual Intimacy

RCCG Sunday School STUDENT Manual 18 April 2021 – Lesson 33

TOPIC: Sexual Intimacy In Marriage (Part 2)

MEMORY VERSE: “Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established:” – Proverbs 24:3

BIBLE PASSAGE: 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 KJV (RCCG Sunday School STUDENT Manual 18 April 2021)

2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

INTRODUCTION: We have learnt that sexual intimacy creates a special bond between a man and his wife with basic facts supported by scriptures and its numerous benefits. It is equally necessary to discuss some of the challenges facing couples in the area of sexual intimacy (SOS.5:1-6). It should be noted that in some homes or families certain problems or conflicts can be traced to unsatisfactory sexual relationship (1 Cor.7:2-5). The good news is that these challenges can be remedied.


  1. Likely Causes Of Sexual Intimacy Challenges
  2. Some Remedies For Sexual Intimacy Challenges


While some challenges of sexual intimacy are spiritual, quite a lot of these challenges can be traced to the following:

  1. Myths, misconception, wrong cultural orientations or unscriptural spiritual inclinations about sex, e.g. “women should not initiate sex or enjoy it”
  2. Fear of conceiving another baby. Some couples either lack the knowledge of appropriate family planning techniques or have refused to deploy the techniques that can prevent unwanted pregnancy. Hosea 4:6.
  3. Previous experiences of sexual abuse directly or indirectly.
  4. Libido (sex drive) issues or inadequate foreplay (inability to discover and/or explore the erogenous part of the body).
  5. Health challenges which may either be physiological or psychological e.g erectile dysfunction, frigidity (cold-heartedness), not-in-the-mood syndrome, complications during childbirth, illness, etc.
  6. Infidelity and lack of trust. Heb13:4.
  7. Sometimes, sexual appetite decreases in women after menopause whereas there is minimal decline in the sexual drive of men. Gen. 18:12.
  8. Lack of understanding of love languages and/or things that turn them on or off.
  9. Communication issues and busy schedules.
  10. Environmental factors – being conscious of the presence of a third party in the surrounding (children, relatives, neighbours, etc), unpleasant noise, etc.


  1. Prayer: Couples should commit their sex life into God’s hand the same way they do for other aspects of their lives. This is a great antidote to demonic influences. Phil. 4:6-7.
  2. Counselling: It is not a shameful thing to seek medical/psychological help when faced with sexual intimacy challenges. Prov. 11:14; 24:6.
  3. Communications: If you observe that your sex life is on the decline, bring up the topic and talk it out. Amos 3:3.
  4. Time and stress management: Married couples should create time out of their tight schedules to be intimate and cut off stress-inducing factors as much as possible. Eccl. 3:1;8:6.
  5. Self-development: Couples should look inward and work on their weakness and the immediate environment that could turn off either of the party. 2 Cor. 13:5.

CONCLUSION: Avoiding your spouse especially in the area of sexual intimacy is creating a space that will be occupied by something or someone else.


  1. Why are some couples not sexually intimate? Explain the causes.
  2. How the challenges of sexual intimacy be remedied?

ASSIGNMENT: Identify five (5) causes of sexual intimacy challenges and solutions to the challenges.

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